How do you figure out what the barrier is? A common pattern I see and have experienced is, "Male partner talks a good game about equality but is not doing anywhere near 50%, and is very angry/defensive/pouty when female partner points out that things are not equal. And nothing changes." I think this is probably Values Mismatch (why should he change if he can get away with doing less?) but wonder what the research says.
Great read! Those are the things I talked about with my clients on regular bases.
How do you figure out what the barrier is? A common pattern I see and have experienced is, "Male partner talks a good game about equality but is not doing anywhere near 50%, and is very angry/defensive/pouty when female partner points out that things are not equal. And nothing changes." I think this is probably Values Mismatch (why should he change if he can get away with doing less?) but wonder what the research says.