I have several kids and my partner and I divide things pretty equally. One son plays baseball and my partner is one of the coaches. He handles all scheduling and social tasks related to baseball because he is there at all the practices. That feels very logical to me. I handle scheduling and social interactions related to other kids activities if I am the one there. Then, we communicate really well with each other about what is happening. We've been doing this for years. It works great for us. Every year, I receive feedback from the baseball moms that they feel as though I am not involved enough or I don't care simply because my husband is doing the planning for this one activity. They read my parenting approach as not caring enough for my child. They totally disregard the value of his dad's presence. I can't figure it out, but they still feel I should schedule and handle all the socialization tasks even with my partner at every practice. My husband has never received feedback from parents that he isn't adequately supporting our other children because he isn't doing the scheduling or social tasks for their activities. So silly!
There were 2 birthday parties in my son’s pre-k classroom in July and in both cases, the RSVP contact was the dad (both are heterosexual marriages). It (sadly?) really stood out to me! But it was nice to see the husband handling the planning of a bday party and I think I will try this when we plan our son’s 5th bday party. But it never crossed my mind to feel weird about texting or emailing the dad!
I have several kids and my partner and I divide things pretty equally. One son plays baseball and my partner is one of the coaches. He handles all scheduling and social tasks related to baseball because he is there at all the practices. That feels very logical to me. I handle scheduling and social interactions related to other kids activities if I am the one there. Then, we communicate really well with each other about what is happening. We've been doing this for years. It works great for us. Every year, I receive feedback from the baseball moms that they feel as though I am not involved enough or I don't care simply because my husband is doing the planning for this one activity. They read my parenting approach as not caring enough for my child. They totally disregard the value of his dad's presence. I can't figure it out, but they still feel I should schedule and handle all the socialization tasks even with my partner at every practice. My husband has never received feedback from parents that he isn't adequately supporting our other children because he isn't doing the scheduling or social tasks for their activities. So silly!
There were 2 birthday parties in my son’s pre-k classroom in July and in both cases, the RSVP contact was the dad (both are heterosexual marriages). It (sadly?) really stood out to me! But it was nice to see the husband handling the planning of a bday party and I think I will try this when we plan our son’s 5th bday party. But it never crossed my mind to feel weird about texting or emailing the dad!